A mother has been arrested in Florida for fleeing with her 4 year old son in order to prevent the child's father from having him circumcised.
"Heather Hironimus, 31, was arrested Thursday and was being held at the
Broward County Jail, two months after she ignored a judge's warnings she
must appear in court and give her consent for the procedure to avoid
She has essentially been forced to hand over her son to his father so that he can eventually be genitally mutilated. The judge in this case initially threatened to throw Heather in prison if she did not agree to allow her son to be genitally mutilated for life. Now the judge has thrown her in jail for her refusal to comply and is being forced to hand over her son to the father who wants to mutilate him. Just because most people still consider male genital mutilation to be nothing more than a minor medical procedure does not make it any less barbaric or wrong.
Male genital mutilation (circumcision) is a completely
voluntary and unnecessary medical procedure that leaves little boys
scarred for life. The mutilation is usually carried out within days after a boy
is born, and so he is never given the chance to decide for himself if he
wants to have it done. In this case we have a child who can speak up and
share his feelings about this unnecessary procedure - this mutilation.
The only one listening or caring is his mother, and she has basically been rendered
completely powerless to help and protect him now.
There seems to be no consideration for the child, who is apparently scared to death of being mutilated, and who could blame him? He is not an infant - he is a 4 year old child who is able to understand what pain is, and who is able to voice his feelings and fears. He is at the age where he is able to understand that his father wants to have a part of him cut off for no reason. He is able to understand that his mommy is trying to keep him safe. But what he is not able to do is have a say in any of this, even though it is his body, and he has enough language to express himself.
I am not saying that a child should be able to make major medical or life decisions for themselves, but I am saying that we, the adults, need to listen more to children and consider how they feel and understand things - especially with things like this which can be absolutely terrifying for them.
Listening to this 4 year old, in this particular situation, is even more important since the procedure is not necessary or required for any medical reasons. It is solely an elective procedure on the part of the father that, if not done, will not endanger his life in any way. However, the procedure can indeed endanger his life and will affect his life permanently. Because of that, this little boy should indeed have an opportunity to express himself - even at the young age of 4.
For those that would disagree with me, let me put it to you like this:
You decide that your child's pinky finger is a useless part of their body and should be removed. Your child is 4, and you tell them what is going to happen and why. Your 4 year old reacts by being completely terrified and tells you that they don't want you to do it. You now have a choice - keep terrifying and traumatizing your child until the procedure is done and ignore their genuine pleas not to do it, or acknowledge that you are actually doing more harm than good to your child by choosing to force him to undergo a completely unnecessary procedure, and that you are terrorizing them for something that you want done purely for your own beliefs, preferences or desires.
If you choose to not proceed you are sending the message to your child that they are indeed the most important thing in your life, and that you would rather not cause them any undue pain or suffering just for your own personal beliefs, preferences or desires. If you choose to proceed with the procedure you are sending the message to your child that your own personal beliefs, preferences and desires are more important to you than your child is, and that your child's fear and suffering does not really matter to you - that you value your own personal beliefs, preferences or desires over your own child.
I think that this mother is an amazing parent. She is prepared to do whatever it takes to protect her son from an unnecessary, painful, and terrifying procedure that will leave him permanently scarred for life. No matter what happens, this child will know that his mom did everything she could to keep him safe and that she put him first above all else, even her own well-being and freedom. This is what a real parent is supposed to do. If only more parents were as devoted to their children as she is to hers the world would probably be a much better place.
Parents need to stop mutilating their children in order to satisfy the desires of an imaginary friend or for their own preferences. Little boys do not deserve to be put through this type of barbaric and painful mutilation just because their parents are completely selfish and ignorant.
And yes, it is mutilation. Just because it is usually performed in a hospital with standard medical equipment does not make it any less of a mutilation - you are depriving a boy of an important part of his body. Let's not forget the Tuskeegee experiments, or the eugenics of the 1940's--these were medical procedures with the imprimatur of legitimacy given by the doctors performing them, and the state condoning them.
The foreskin is not just a useless flap of skin. It is an important part of male anatomy that "represents at least a third of the penile skin. It protects the
glans from abrasion and contact with clothes. The foreskin also increases sexual
pleasure by sliding up and down on the shaft, stimulating the glans by
alternately covering and exposing it. This can occur during masturbation or
intercourse. Friction is minimized, and supplementary lubrication is not needed.
Without the foreskin, the glans skin, which is normally moist mucous [sic] membrane,
becomes dry and thickens considerably in response to continued exposure. This
change reduces its sensitivity."
When you remove the foreskin you are removing an important part of a male's anatomy - you are indeed mutilating him.
We have a right to bodily autonomy:
"Bodily autonomy means a person has control over who or what uses their body, for what, and for how long. Its why you can't be forced to donate blood, tissue, or organs. Even if you are dead."
A dead person has the right to bodily autonomy, but a child does not because children are sadly considered by many parents to be property, and as property they do not have the right to say anything about what happens to their own bodies. However, children should not be seen as property, and just because they are children does not mean they should not be afforded that same right of bodily autonomy by their parents for unnecessary medical procedures - the right that even a dead person is afforded.
We do not allow parents to have unnecessary plastic surgeries performed on their children because it is considered cruel, barbaric, unethical, and dangerous to the child. So why do we then allow parents to unnecessarily mutilate their son's genitals? There is absolutely no answer anyone could possibly give to ever justify the act of mutilating little boys.
Some would argue that circumcisions are sometimes done for necessary medical reasons, which is true. But then it is no longer considered an act of mutilation because it is then a necessary medical procedure for the well-being and health of the person who requires it. It is no longer a procedure based on a personal preference or desire; these instances are not cosmetic preferences.
If feminists want a real cause to fight for, this is it. Fight to have Heather Hironimus freed from jail and to protect her son from being genitally mutilated. Fight against unnecessary genital mutilation of defenseless little boys, and demand that it be equally banned and outlawed as a barbaric inhumane practice like they have for female genital mutilation.
Heather Hironimus is currently being held at the Broward County Jail in Florida. The address and contact information is:
555 SE 1st Ave.
Ft. Lauderdale, FL 33301
Lets see if we can't get someone to organize a protest for her and her son. Lets see if any feminists truly care about equality by standing up and speaking out against male genital mutilation. Let's see if they are capable of anything more than public whining, complaining, shit-slinging, arm-chair activism, or slacktivism.
Sadly I doubt anyone will actually do anything to help, or to even show an ounce of compassion - let alone the feminists who insist they really do care about equality, men, and male genital mutilation while doing absolutely nothing about any of it. But that's ok, it's just boys, and they don't really matter because, in the end, they are part of the horrible patriarchy.
The truth is that a boys genitals being mutilated are just not an issue that feminism is really all that concerned with, so let's just all move on to more important things like man-spreading, the evil male gaze, and complaining about men yelling FHRITP into reporter's microphones. These are the real issues that feminism crusades for. Fuck the little boys and their toxic masculinity. Let them cry their little male tears so more feminists can drink them.
Written by Kristina Hansen
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